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Introduction
Source : AJU Miller Intro to Judaism: A Guide to Shabbat at Home
Candle Lighting
Source : AJU Miller Intro to Judaism: A Guide to Shabbat at Home

Candlelight is very different than the harsh lights of our homes and offices. We begin Shabbat bathed in their sweet, gentle glow.

Candles are lit a minimum of 18 minutes before sundown on Friday evening.

Light at least two candles (some add an additional candle for each child.) Draw in the light by waving your hands toward your eyes three times. Recite the blessing, while covering your eyes with your hands. Uncover your eyes and take a moment to appreciate the sweet light of Shabbat.

בָּרוּךְ‭ ‬אַתָּה‭ ‬יְיָ‭ ‬אֱלֹהֵֽינוּ‭ ‬מֶֽלֶךְ‭ ‬הָעוֹלָם
‭ ‬אֲשֶׁר‭ ‬קִדְּשָֽׁנוּ‭ ‬בְּמִצְוֹתָיו
‭ ‬וְצִוָּֽנוּ‭ ‬לְהַדְלִיק‭ ‬נֵר‭ ‬שֶׁל‭ ‬שַׁבָּת

Barukh ata Adonai Eloheinu melekh ha’olam,
asher kidshanu b’mitzvotav
v’tzivanu l’hadlik ner shel shabbat.

Blessed are You, Adonai our God, Ruler of the universe,
Whose mitzvot add holiness to our lives
and Who has given us the mitzvah to kindle the lights of Shabbat.

Candle Lighting
Source : A Guide to Shabbat at Home

On Friday nights we invite the angels to briefly come and join us at our Shabbat table, to offer us their blessings, and then to continue on in their Shabbat rounds.

We sing Shalom Aleikhem at the beginning of the Shabbat meal. 

שָׁלוֹם‭ ‬עֲלֵיכֶם‭ ‬מַלְאֲכֵי‭ ‬הַשָּׁרֵת‭ ‬מַלְאֲכֵי‭ ‬עֶלְיוֹן
‭ ‬מִמֶּֽלֶךְ‭ ‬מַלְכֵי‭ ‬הַמְּלָכִים‭ ‬הַקָּדוֹשׁ‭ ‬בָּרוּךְ‭ ‬הוּא

בּוֹאֲכֶם‭ ‬לְשָׁלוֹם‭ ‬מַלְאֲכֵי‭ ‬הַשָּׁלוֹם‭ ‬מַלְאֲכֵי‭ ‬עֶלְיוֹן
‭ ‬מִמֶּֽלֶךְ‭ ‬מַלְכֵי‭ ‬הַמְּלָכִים‭ ‬הַקָּדוֹשׁ‭ ‬בָּרוּךְ‭ ‬הוּא

בָּרְכֽוּנִי‭ ‬לְשָׁלוֹם‭ ‬מַלְאֲכֵי‭ ‬הַשָּׁלוֹם‭ ‬מַלְאֲכֵי‭ ‬עֶלְיוֹן
‭ ‬מִמֶּֽלֶךְ‭ ‬מַלְכֵי‭ ‬הַמְּלָכִים‭ ‬הַקָּדוֹשׁ‭ ‬בָּרוּךְ‭ ‬הוּא

צֵאתְכֶם‭ ‬לְשָׁלוֹם‭ ‬מַלְאֲכֵי‭ ‬הַשָּׁלוֹם‭ ‬מַלְאֲכֵי‭ ‬עֶלְיוֹן
‭ ‬מִמֶּֽלֶךְ‭ ‬מַלְכֵי‭ ‬הַמְּלָכִים‭ ‬הַקָּדוֹשׁ‭ ‬בָּרוּךְ‭ ‬הוּא‭ ‬

Shalom aleikhem malakhei hasharet malakhei elyon
mimelekh mal’khei ham’lakhim hakadosh barukh hu.

Bo-akhem leshalom malakhei hashalom malakhei elyon
mimelekh mal’khei ham’lakhim hakadosh barukh hu.

Barkhuni leshalom malakhei hashalom malakhei elyon
mimelekh mal’khei ham’lakhim hakadosh barukh hu.

Tzetkhem leshalom malakhei hashalom malakhei elyon
mimelekh mal’khei ham’lakhim hakadosh barukh hu.

We wish you peace, angels of the the Sovereign of sovereigns,
the Holy Blessed One.
Come to us in peace, angels of peace...
Bless us with peace, angels of peace...
Take your leave from us in peace, angels of peace...

Candle Lighting
Source : A Guide to Shabbat at Home

Take a moment to turn to one another and offer words of love and appreciation. These blessings need not be restricted just to people who are married, they can be offered by and for any loving partner. 

For a woman:

אֵֽשֶׁת‭ ‬חַֽיִל‭ ‬מִי‭ ‬יִמְצָא‭ ‬וְרָחֹק‭ ‬מִפְּנִינִים‭ ‬מִכְרָהּ‭. ‬בָּֽטַח‭ ‬בָּהּ‭ ‬לֵב‭ ‬בַּעְלָהּ‭ ‬וְשָׁלָל‭ ‬לֹא‭ ‬יֶחְסָר

פִּֽיהָ‭ ‬פָּתְחָה‭ ‬בְחָכְמָה‭ ‬וְתֽוֹרַת‭ ‬חֶֽסֶד‭ ‬עַל‭ ‬לְשׁוֹנָהּ‭. ‬קָֽמוּ‭ ‬בָנֶֽיהָ‭ ‬וַיְאַשְּׁרֽוּהָ‭ ‬בַּעְלָהּ‭ ‬וַיְהַלְלָהּ‭. ‬רַבּוֹת‭ ‬בָּנוֹת‭ ‬עָֽשׂוּ‭ ‬חָֽיִל‭ ‬וְאַתְּ‭ ‬עָלִית‭ ‬עַל‭ ‬כֻּלָּֽנָה‭ ‬

Eishet Chayil mi yimtza, v’rakhok mi’pninim michrah.  Batakh bah lev ba’alah, v’shalal lo yekhsar.  Piha pat’cha v’chochmah, v’torat chesed al l’shonah.  Kamu vaneha v’ya’ashruhah, ba’alah vay’hal’lah.  Rabot banot asu chayil, v’at alit al kulanah.

A woman of valor, who can find? Her worth is far beyond rubies. Her husband trusts in her, and lacks for nothing. Her lips are full of wisdom, her mouth with loving-kindness. Her children rise and bless her, her husband sings her praises: “Many women have done well, but you surpass them all!” (Proverbs 31)

For a man:

מִי‭ ‬הָאִישׁ‭ ‬הֶחָפֶץ‭ ‬חַיִּים‭ ‬אוֹהֵב‭ ‬יָמִים‭ ‬לִרְאוֹת‭ ‬טוֹב נְצֹר‭ ‬לְשׁוֹנְךָ‭ ‬מֵרָע‭ ‬וּשְׂפָתֶיךָ‭ ‬מִדַּבֵּר‭ ‬מִרְמָה סוּר‭ ‬מֵרָע‭ ‬וַעַשֵׂה‭ ‬טוֹב‭ ‬בַּקֵּשׁ‭ ‬שָׁלוֹם‭ ‬וְרָדְפֵהוּ

Mi ha-ish, he-hafetz hayim, ohev yamim lir’ot tov? N’tzor l’shon’kha mei’ra, u’sfotecha mi-daber mirma. Sur mei’ra va’aseh tov, bakesh shalom v’rod’feihu

Who is the man who is eager for life, who hopes for long days of good fortune? He guards his tongue from speaking deceit, he turns from evil and does good, he desires peace and pursues it. (Psalm 34)

Candle Lighting
Source : A Guide to Shabbat at Home

No matter what temper tantrum or adolescent rebellion marked the week that is past, we take a moment to place our hands on our children’s heads and to offer them words of pure love.

The blessing for boys derives from Jacob’s blessing to his grandsons, Ephraim and Menashe, who are the first pair of siblings in the Bible who love each other rather than fight each other. The blessing for girls invokes the memory of our four matriarchs — Sarah, Rebekah, Rachel, and Leah. The second part of the blessing — the Priestly Blessing — is the same for boys and girls and it comes from the Book of Numbers.

Place your hands on the head of the person you are blessing. Offer your blessing either aloud or silently. In addition to the traditional words, you may also wish to tell your child something that made you proud of them from the past week. Seal it with a kiss.

For daughters: יְשִֹימֵךְ‭ ‬אֱלֹהִים‭ ‬כְּשָֹרָה‭ ‬רִבְקָה‭ ‬רָחֵל‭ ‬וְלֵאָה Yesimeikh Elohim k’Sarah Rivka Rakhel v’Leah. May God bless you like Sara, Rebekah, Rachel, and Leah.

For sons: יְשִֹימְךָ‭ ‬אֱלֹהִים‭ ‬כְּאֶפְרַיִם‭ ‬וְכִמְנַשֶה Yesimkha Elohim k’Efrayim vekhi’Menasheh. May God bless you like Ephraim and Menasheh.

For all children, continue with: יְבָרֶכְךָ‭ ‬יי‭ ‬וְיִשְמְרֶךָ יָאֵר‭ ‬יי‭ ‬פָּנָיו‭ ‬אֵלֶיךָ‭ ‬וִיחֻנֶךָ יִשָא‭ ‬יי‭ ‬פָּנָיו‭ ‬אֵלֶיךָ‭ ‬וְיָשֵֹם‭ ‬לְךָ‭ ‬שָלוֹם  

Y’varekhekha Adonai v’yishmerekha Ya-er Adonai panav elekha vihuneka Yisa Adonai panav elekha, v’ yasem l’kha shalom. May Adonai bless you and watch over you. May Adonai’s light shine on you and be gracious to you. May Adonai smile on you and grant you peace.

Blessing the Wine
Source : A Guide to Shabbat at Home
Blessing the Wine
Source : A Guide to Shabbat at Home
We raise a glass and pronounce a toast to the Shabbat day, declaring it to be a celebration in remembrance of God’s resting from the work of Creation and our Exodus from Egypt.  Kiddush is made up of three parts — an opening paragraph drawn from the Book of Genesis, which recalls God’s resting on the seventh day, a blessing over the wine ( borei pri ha-gafen ), and a blessing for the Shabbat day ( mikadeish ha-shabbat ). Fill a cup of wine or grape juice. Use a special Kiddush cup or the most beautiful cup you can. Hold the cup in the palm of your hand. All stand. Chant the three part blessing. Sip the wine, then pass the cup around the table for everyone to share.

The leader says: וַיְהִי‭ ‬עֶֽרֶב‭ ‬וַיְהִי‭ ‬בֹֽקֶר‭ ‬יוֹם‭ ‬הַשִּׁשִּׁי‭ .‬וַיְכֻלּוּ‭ ‬הַשָּׁמַֽיִם‭ ‬וְהָאָֽרֶץ‭ ‬וְכָל‭ ‬צְבָאָם‭ .‬וַיְכַל‭ ‬אֱלֹהִים‭ ‬בַּיּוֹם‭ ‬הַשְּׁבִיעִי‭ ‬מְלַאכְתּוֹ‭ ‬אֲשֶׁר‭ ‬עָשָׂה‭ ‬וַיִּשְׁבֹּת‭ ‬בַּיּוֹם‭ ‬הַשְּׁבִיעִי‭ ‬מִכָּל‭ ‬מְלַאכְתּוֹ‭ ‬אֲשֶׁר‭ ‬עָשָׂה‭ .‬וַיְבָֽרֶךְ‭ ‬אֱלֹהִים‭ ‬אֶת‭ ‬יוֹם‭ ‬הַשְּׁבִיעִי‭ ‬וַיְקַדֵּשׁ‭ ‬אֹתוֹ‭ ‬כִּי‭ ‬בוֹ‭ ‬שָׁבַת‭ ‬מִכָּל‭ ‬מְלַאכְתּוֹ‭ ‬אֲשֶר‭ ‬בָּרָא‭ ‬אֱלֹהִים‭ ‬לַעֲשׂוֹת Vayehi erev vayehi voker, yom hashishi. Vayekhulu hashamayim v’ha-aretz v’khol tzeva-am. Vayekhal Elohim bayom hashvi’i melakhto asher asa, vayishbot bayom hashvi’i mikol melakhto asher asa. Vayevarekh Elohim et yom hashvi’i vayekadesh oto, ki vo shavat mikol melakhto asher bara Elohim la’asot. And there was evening and there was morning-- the sixth day. The heavens and the earth and all they contain were completed. On the seventh day God completed the work.God ceased on the seventh day from all that had been done. Then God blessed the seventh day and called it holy because on it God ceased from the work of creation. (Genesis 1:31-2:3)

The leader calls out: סַבְרֵי‭ ‬חַבֶרַי Savrei haverai With your permission...

To which everyone responds: לְחַייִם L’hayim!

The leader begins and all join in: ‭‬בָּרוּךְ‭ ‬אַתָּה‭ ‬יְיָ‭ ‬אֱלֹהֵֽינוּ‭ ‬מֶֽלֶךְ‭ ‬הָעוֹלָם‭ ‬בּוֹרֵא‭ ‬פְּרִי‭ ‬הַגָּֽפֶן

Barukh ata Adonai Eloheinu melekh ha’ olam borei peri hagafen. Blessed are You, Adonai our God, Ruler of the universe, who creates the fruit of the vine.

בָּרוּךְ‭ ‬אַתָּה‭ ‬יְיָ‭ ‬אֱלֹהֵֽינוּ‭ ‬מֶֽלֶךְ‭ ‬הָעוֹלָם‭ ‬אֲשֶׁר‭ ‬קִדְּשָֽׁנוּ‭ ‬בְּמִצְוֹתָיו‭ ‬וְרָֽצָה‭ ‬בָֽנוּ‭ ‬וְשַׁבַּת‭ ‬קָדְשׁוֹ‭ ‬בְּאַהֲבָה‭ ‬וּבְרָצוֹן‭ ‬הִנְחִילָֽנוּ‭ ‬זִכָּרוֹן‭ ‬לְמַעֲשֵׂה‭ ‬בְרֵאשִׁית‭ ‬כִּי‭ ‬הוּא‭ ‬יוֹם‭ ‬תְּחִלָּה‭ ‬לְמִקְרָאֵי‭ ‬קֹֽדֶשׁ‭ ‬זֵֽכֶר‭ ‬לִיצִיאַת‭ ‬מִצְרָֽיִם‭ ‬כִּי‭ ‬בָֽנוּ‭ ‬בָחַֽרְתָּ‭ ‬וְאוֹתָֽנוּ‭ ‬קִדַּֽשְׁתָּ‭ ‬מִכָּל‭ ‬הָעַמִּים‭ ‬וְשַׁבַּת‭ ‬קָדְשְׁךָ‭ ‬בְּאַהֲבָה‭ ‬וּבְרָצוֹן‭ ‬הִנְחַלְתָּֽנוּ‭. ‬בָּרוּךְ‭ ‬אַתָּה‭ ‬יְיָ‭, ‬מְקַדֵּשׁ‭ ‬הַשַּׁבָּת

Barukh ata Adonai Eloheinu melekh ha’olam, asher kid’shanu bemitzvotav veratza vanu, v’shabbat kodsho b’ahava uvratzon hinhilanu, zikaron lema’ase vereshit. Ki hu yom t’hilah lemikra’ei kodesh, zekher litzi’at mitzrayim. Ki vanu vaharta v’otanu kidashta mikol ha’amim, v’shabbat kodshekha b’ahava uvratzon hinhaltanu.  Barukh ata Adonai mekadeish hashabbat. Blessed are You, Adonai our God, Ruler of the universe, whose mitzvot add holiness to our lives, and who offered us the gift of Your holy Shabbat, granted lovingly and gladly, a reminder of Creation. It is the first among our sacred occasions, a recollection of the Exodus from Egypt. You have chosen and sanctified us from among all peoples by granting us Your holy Shabbat lovingly and gladly. Blessed are You, Adonai, who makes Shabbat holy.

Everyone responds: אָמֵן Amen

Hand Washing
Source : A Guide to Shabbat at Home

We wash our hands in the same way that the ancient priests would purify themselves before engaging in the Temple service. Since we no longer have a Temple, today our tables are our altars.

Wash your hands with water, pouring three times onto each hand, and recite the blessing. Maintain silence until everyone has finished washing, and are ready to break bread together. In place of speech, however, one is encouraged to sing.

בָּרוּךְ‭ ‬אַתָּה‭ ‬יְיָ‭ ‬אֱלֹהֵֽינוּ‭ ‬מֶֽלֶךְ‭ ‬הָעוֹלָם ‭ ‬אֲשֶׁר‭ ‬קִדְּשָֽׁנוּ‭ ‬בְּמִצְוֹתָיו ‭ ‬וְצִוָּֽנוּ‭ ‬עַל‭ ‬נְטִילַת‭ ‬יָדָֽיִם

Barukh ata Adonai Eloheinu melekh ha’olam, asher kidshanu b’mitzvotav v’tzivanu al netilat yadayim. Blessed are You, Adonai our God, Ruler of the Universe, Whose mitzvot add holiness to our lives and Who has given us the mitzvah of washing hands.

Blessing The Challah
Source : A Guide to Shabbat at Home

There is no more fundamentally human act than breaking bread together. On Shabbat we use two, complete loaves of rich, braided bread to symbolize abundance and blessing.

When setting the table, set two loaves of challah on plate, cover with a cloth, and place either a shaker of salt or container of honey nearby.

Remove the challah cover.
Touch the challah or touch someone who is touching the challah.
Bless together.
Tear or cut the challah into pieces. Dip it in salt (use honey instead if anyone present is within the first year of marriage).
Pass or throw (yes, throw!) the challah to each person at the table.

בָּרוּךְ‭ ‬אַתָּה‭ ‬יְיָ‭ ‬אֱלֹהֵֽינוּ‭ ‬מֶֽלֶךְ‭ ‬הָעוֹלָם
‭ ‬הַמּֽוֹצִיא‭ ‬לֶֽחֶם‭ ‬מִן‭ ‬הָאָֽרֶץ

Barukh ata Adonai Eloheinu melekh ha’olam,
hamotzi lekhem min ha-aretz.

Blessed are You, Adonai our God, Ruler of the universe,
Who brings forth bread from the earth.

Thoughts for the Week
Source : A Guide to Shabbat at Home
Saying Thanks
Source : A Guide to Shabbat at Home

Mah Yafeh HaYom מַה יָפֶה הָיוֹם .שַׁבָּת שָׁלוֹם Ma yafeh ha-yom, shabbat shalom. (2x) Shabbat, shabbat shalom. (3x) Shabbat shalom How beautiful is this day, a day of Shabbat peace!

Hinei Ma Tov הִנֵה מַה-טּוֹב וּמַה-נָעִים .שֶׁבֶת אַחִים גַם יָחַד Hinei ma tov uma na-im Shevet achim gam yachad. How good and pleasant it is when brothers and sisters dwell together in harmony. (Psalms 133:1)

Am Yisrael Chai ‭‬עַם‭ ‬יִשְֹרָאֵל‭ ‬חַי ‭‬עוֹד‭ ‬אֲבִינוּ‭  ‬חַי Am yisrael chai Od aveenu chai The Jewish People lives on. Our ancestors live on in us.

Hava Nashira

,הַבָה‭ ‬נַשִׁירָה ‬שִׁיר‭ ‬הַלְלוּיָהּ Hava nashira Shir halleluyah Come let us sing a song of praise Halleluyah!

Od Yavo Shalom עוֹד‭ ‬יַבוֹא‭ ‬שָׁלוֹם‭ ‬עַלֵינוּ‭ ‬ ‭‬עוֹד‭ ‬יַבוֹא‭ ‬שָׁלוֹם‭ ‬עַלֵינוּ‭ ‬וְעַל‭ ‬כּוּלַם סַאלַאם‭ ‬עַלֵינוּ‭ ‬וְעַל‭ ‬כָל‭ ‬הָעוֹלָם ‭‬סַאלַאם‭! ‬סַאלַאם Od yavo shalom aleinu (x2) Od yavo shalom aleinu v’al kulam. Salaam, aleinu v’al kol ha’olam! Salaam! Salaam! (2x)

Peace will still come to us, to us and everyone. Salaam! Peace for us and the whole world. Salaam. Salaam.